Saturday, March 31, 2012

Divorce is never easy, especially for children

Divorce. It is never easy. One of the most heart wrenching are the children. In fact, staying together for the good of the boys can really be a form to be together, because we do not know how to deal with emotions.

Of course your children will be upset by the divorce. Who could blame them? In reality it is a "normal reaction. It 'good for children to experience these negative feelings. More importantly, they need to express them. Do not be distressed by their concerns. The best thing you can do for children is to accept and support their feelings.

Sometimes pre-scripting your answers can make you feel stronger in your beliefs. Here are some suggested ways to be supportive and comforting to your children.

If he / she express the sadness?

"Yes, I feel sad, too. Mom and Dad wanted to live together forever. I am sad that we can not. Unfortunately not always get what we want.

Is he / she angry?

"Yes, I am there with you. If my parents could not live together and I wanted them to, I'd be mad, too. But sometimes it just can not continue to live together."

Is he / she afraid of? "Yes, he feels fear when things are changing. Especially if we're not sure what's going to happen. But it may be surprised, so could be out for an adventure, and it may be better than what we're doing" .

If he / she blame you or themselves? "Yes, I know that when things do not go as hoped, it was thought to be someone's fault. But sometimes things just happen and is not nobody's fault.

The magic word is YES. The first step is to accept the feelings of the child and give them the confidence that you agree with them. Therefore propose an alternative way of looking at the situation.

We know that divorce is never easy and may need help at this difficult time.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Break Up & Divorce: If you were sentenced to a bad relationship because of religion and guilt?

If you're in a bad marriage and are really unhappy, it must be separated, divorced, or remain in a marriage?

This is not a cut and dry decision as there are many factors to consider. We're going to go out the window and ask you to question beliefs that you may have never thought to question before. In other words, having an open mind while reading the rest of this article.

Background - This is a bad relationship?

Imagine the following scenario ...

I was married for twelve years to a man (S) which has left me twice. He also had numerous extra-marital betrayals. He took his things and left the last time about a year and a half ago. I tried and tried to talk to him but he refused to talk to me or answer my calls. I was just heartbroken. It was my second husband. My first husband was not unfaithful, but he had an explosive temper and shouted and screamed at me. And though he never really hit me, I was afraid of him.

In any case, seven months after my second husband left me I decided to try and get on with my life. I met a wonderful man (D). It was everything I wanted - Caring, responsible, trustful and very loving. We started slowly, but after a while 'I am deeply in love with him. He fell in love with me.

I hired a lawyer. I filed for divorce. After I had been with D for about four months he proposed to me. I was very excited and accepted. I knew our relationship was perfect and we had a wonderful life ahead of us. We were doing everything together and I was so happy.

S somehow found out and started to call me. He told me he wanted us back together. He told me he would never do anything he had done to me before. He said he found God and was now going to church. He said he was a changed man. He said it was still his wife and I owed him another opportunity to demonstrate that had changed. He said it was a broken man and thought of suicide. I finally allowed him to see me crying and crying and complaining to me saying he had changed. I felt so guilty.

He had to take her husband back or stay with his new found love? What would you do?

Love and fear

While this is a very emotional situation, must not be allowed to feel guilty about something another person does or experiences. They make their life choices and their experiences are their own. Be understanding and empathy with the other person, but never ever be responsible for what another person is experiencing.

You can control how they behave and respond to a situation, but this is where the control ends. Never let another person make you feel guilty. There is no right or wrong choice, because in life it grows from every experience - some choices just work better for us than others. Even those who did not work quite like you hoped provide the opportunity to grow.

Sometimes the best way to understand what we want is to experience what we do not want. Try to learn from past experiences so that you do not keep repeating over and over. The Universe, or God, seems to continue to send you the same situation or experience until you've learned the lesson that you need to learn from this specific experience. In other words, the models continue to repeat until you get it right.

Our emotional scale has two extremes - love and fear. In every situation - ask yourself if you are acting out of love or fear, and always try to act out of love. Now that means letting someone walk on you ... You need to make decisions that feel right in your heart, the core of your being, in your gut, but want to explain it. Just make sure you're not making your decisions out of fear, anger, guilt, jealousy, revenge or any other negative emotion.

Others may react to your decisions with negative emotion, but remember what I said earlier - you can just check your answers, not them. If another person chooses to respond to something to do with a negative feeling, that is their decision and you can not control what they do. One can only accept their reaction with love and understanding.

Make your life decisions based on what feels right for you. Many but not all, will disagree with me, but the only person that you are solely responsible in this life is you. Others come and go from your life so that you can further the experience of life, but you come in this life and leave on your own, So make sure while your here you take care of you.

Religion and guilt

When you choose to get advice from a religious counselor, remember that he is bound by rules and Regulations of whichever religion you choose to follow. And those rules and regulations are not always based on love but can also be based on monitoring and trying to make the followers act and behave religion deems appropriate.

Forgiveness, however, is the most powerful tool you have in this life. I think there is a quote that goes something like ... "Forgiveness is a gift from God who forgives, not" forgiven - something like that. It 'very true because when you forgive someone you let go of all negative emotions that the situation around if the other person also knows that forgave them.

This may sound harsh, but I would ditch the church counselor. He does not necessarily have your interests in mind. His main concern is that you follow the rules of the church, you're happy or not. And I think we are all here to experience happiness.

The doctrine of misery is fabricated by modern organized religion. We say that we be good people to suffer. Have you actually read the Bible? I can not find anywhere in the Bible that says we need to be unhappy to be good people.

My interpretation of the teachings of Jesus' and the Bible is that we must love and accept everyone and every experience that comes into our life unconditionally because life is perfection.

Sure, modern religion misquotes many specific passages in the Bible that have been translated by many different authors with many different perceptions through many different languages thousands of years - and then tells us to follow their rules or go to hell. I believe that Hell is defined by the self perpetrated misery that many people are put in every day.

"Hell is what we experience when we are faithful to ourselves."

We do not need religion to tell us what is right and wrong. Until you come from a place of love and acceptance, you will always make the right decisions. I've never known a truly spiritual person who judges or condemns another person. Why an omnipotent God need to judge us - that would be like us judging the actions of the ants in an anthill on a small island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean ... OK, enough ranting on modern religion ...

In summary

If you are in a similar situation,

- Follow your heart and do what you feel to be right.

- Stop listening to other people who are not on your path. Have you heard the old adage of walking a mile in another's shoes before judging them. Well, the fact is that no one has walked in your shoes and have no right to say what is right or wrong for you.

- Stop to repeat old patterns and stop punishing yourself for things that others perceive to be wrong. Follow your heart and your passions. Only then can you truly be happy.

- It is your responsibility to make someone else happy, but it is your responsibility to make you happy.

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Healing after a breakup with a spouse

Breaking up is a time when there are so many emotions going and you are not sure what is happening in some cases. There are so many feelings that can be hidden deep inside and you are looking for a way to free them. When this is the problem, you should consider the following:

Write a journal. Write your feelings and things that you can leave yourself. A newspaper is something you can use to comfort your feelings when you are ashamed to do otherwise. While writing you will see that your true emotions are coming out, and you'll finally be able to rebuild your life.

Stay away from romantic movies. Stay out of any movie theater and not rent any video that has any kind of romance in it. You can have more emotional problems if you watch romantic movies. Watch movies that are positive, avoid movies that are depressing and sad. The best types of movies to watch are comedies and films of people who lived through difficult situations and ended in the foreground.

Begin training. The best way to make you feel better physically and emotionally is to get active. If you feel emotionally drained and depressed, find some exercise that is to keep you fit and healthy. Join a gym, a spa or a spa to get some exercise that you are looking for. Or simply go out and start running or walking. As long as you are getting your body moving and moving, you will start feeling better and excited to get along with your new life.

Remember: you can be single at any age and still find happiness and love. Take all the negative things and then turn them into something positive. Leave the past in the past. Enjoy what you have and look forward to the future.

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Overcoming Rejection

Now that I've completed a few laps in the pool online dating, I'm cogitating another crackpot theories of Karen life. This is denial. Or hit off. Or not be compatible. Or the refusal to compromise. Which could all be the same, more or less, depending on how you look. Anyway here's my theory:

It seems that the intensity of the reaction a person has a 'refusal' is inversely proportional to the confidence they have in their concept of a higher power. Stay with me this one ... I think I can connect everything so it makes sense.

We say that a person has faith in something a little more perceptive, ordered, organized or him. He does not pray or surrender or hear his connection to any type of creator / source / deeper order / life force. Relies only on his mind for guidance, and does not believe in any kind of larger picture of what he can perceive with his senses.

When a person with a conscience who thinks that he met his one and only, but she does not share his perception, then everything goes out of whack in his world. His life feels bad, as from its own path. He tries to reason with her, to convince her that she should remain, she is making a mistake, because you, without, his life seems empty.

You can consider their condition to be a simple case of incompatibility in some important area, but receives a personal rejection, and feels as if something was wrong with him that needs correction. I can not imagine a more impotent and incapable of being the market rather than feeling like something is wrong with you that will keep you from ever having what you want, and not to know or be able to strive to resolve the problem.

Instead, let's look at a person of faith, whether religious, spiritual or contemplative / experiential. When she notes that a new perspective does not feel the same kind of potential for a healthy partnership and growth that makes him, his reaction is on a different level.

You may feel some pain or sadness, but she does not feel his opinion as a statement of opinion on who he is. You're not going to campaign to woo him back. She does not start a campaign of self-improvement to fix all its shortcomings. She simply accepts that his time with him was short, and his trust in a higher power can relax, because you feel you are driving, and took a wrong turn and it would be better herself and get it back on track.

It is hoped that the partner is looking not require convincing. It gives the plan the biggest, knowing that can only have the ability to see a step or two ahead of where it is, but That Never doubt that she will get through. Aware of the comforting presence and continues its inner guidance, you feel alone, abandoned or misplaced. She lets him go, and you can experience his emotional reaction to loss, and then go ahead.

So if I were to give any advice to my colleagues swimmers, this would be: Focus more of your energy on growing a relationship with a higher power higher Than your mind and senses, and your energy finding your perfect match. Then you can admire the grace to let people come and go from your life, how they are connected to do, and feel free to do the same.

Copyright 2006 Karen Alonge

Friday, March 16, 2012

Obtain an ex-girlfriend Back

Want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back? If you still love your ex-girlfriend, but do not know how to win back his love, read these simple tips:

- Create a space between you and your ex-girlfriend. Stop all phone calls, text messages and emails.

- After some time, invite your ex-girlfriend to talk to you. Ask if she'd like to do something not binding, as a drink with you. Express regret things did not work out between you.

- Respect their decisions. If you see someone else, not sabotage her relationship in any way.

- Do not mention things you do or have done for her. She does not forget them, do not worry. If I mention to you, you are making their value.

- Buy her gifts. They do not have to be expensive. Sometimes flowers alone are not sufficient. Buy her something unique and romantic. However, if you want to get your ex girlfriend back, do not rely on only buying gifts. Demonstrate that its really love and are not simply lusting for her.

- Make your ex girlfriend jealous. Pretend to be happy and seem to have completely forgotten about her. Flirt with everybody - there's nothing better than to have fun, when she expects you to be out of sorts. So, have fun.

- Avoid rebound relationships and one night. This will not make your ex girlfriend jealous, or jealous enough to return.

- Be patient. It may take a while 'for her to understand what he lost. Also, try to be a better person. When he sees that change is real and that is there to last, you start to open his heart again. Fell once - try to remember what has fallen and then to reinforce those characteristics again.

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Broken: how to overcome broken Relations

You are at the end of a report and it is difficult to come to terms with your loss? Are you struggling to understand why your relationship has finished in the way he did? Do you feel that this may be something you can not overcome? Do not you just want the pain and anguish to go away so you can heal and start over? If you have a bad relationship break then you can surely understand the negative impact it may have on your emotions and the feelings of people who love and look out for you.

In my career as a hypnotherapist I have helped hundreds of people that soothing the pain and hurt that comes from difficult relationship break-ups. Some people who saw me see it as the end of Their World and the former is very difficult to go forward, put it behind them and get on with their life. For them, this is a real pain that is not even comparable to the worst kind of pain. If you suffer in this situation right now then I will offer a message of hope and say that as always is hard to believe now, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there.

With the clients that I can help, I use hypnosis, this is done on a 1-1 basis or through my hypnosis downloads for cracks. Hypnosis works to reprogram virtually part of the brain which we call the mind or the sub-conscious. And 'sub-conscious mind contains all our thoughts, beliefs, memories, behaviors and habits, and is an excellent starting point to address the negative impact of your break. With soothing pain and other emotions related to break up you can then start to look at the situation differently - in a different light. This allows you to make decisions about your future more clearly.

If you are serious about getting over the pain and discomfort of a broken relationship, then I wish you luck and success. I suggest you start with a hypnosis recording or downloading or even search the local hypnotherapist to ask their help.

I hope the best of success in this and remember - that's not the end of the world - you are strong enough to beat this.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Break up: Overcoming the Pain

To be in a seemingly loving relationship one minute and then pushed back in 'singledom' the next minute can be too much for some individuals - and that was their fault? Relationship breaks can occur for many reasons including infidelity, jealousy, anger problems and sometimes just bored. Some people get really good when they get dumped and some do not. Some people find it difficult to understand why the relationship deteriorated in the first place and may not have thought that where the problems were affecting the relationship in a negative way. People who find it difficult to break can often feel isolated and alone in their grief. You can really impress for their confidence and their self-esteem.

If you've gone through a bad break up or are going through one hour, you will be able to understand the pain and anguish that a person in that position would change. Sleepless nights, the feeling of uselessness and the constant 'what if's' that crosses the mind are all things you can empathize with. For some people it is almost the same as being in mourning, as you lost your lover and your relationship. It can be really difficult to think of the future in a positive way, as every time you just think about your life without your lover. You can really feel like a downward spiral that is sucking you deeper into despair.

So if you're going with this type of situation at the moment and you find yourself find difficult to deal with what's going on - do not despair as you can get more than that. As a hypnotherapist I help an untold number of individual depression difficult relationship divide through my products and in my private clinic. Hypnosis is so successful because it simply reprogramming the part of your brain that makes you feel so bad right now. We refer to this as being part of your sub-conscious mind, and is part of your mind that holds all your beliefs, habits and behaviors, so it's a great place to start.

If you are serious about hypnosis to achieve success on your break and lost, then I suggest you begin by trying a hypnosis download or recording. Listen and relax with it - only allowing it to do all the work for you. I wish you luck and success.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Tips to overcome a break

Going through a break can be a massive time difficult for some people. On the occasion of confusion, anger, resentment and a whole series of negative emotions can be present in the person suffering at the hands of a bad break-up. If you are suffering from a badly split at this time from your partner then you will understand how bad it can feel. I put this article together for you to help you overcome this difficult moment and make things a bit 'easier for you. I successfully help hundreds of people in your situation through my 1-1 or sitting through my products. Generally I use hypnosis with each client, but to help you now I've listed some of my advice I give to customers below. I hope you use them and see the benefit sometime soon. Good luck and I wish you the best of success.

1. Get a friend over and talk through ... You'll be amazed how different you feel once you've taken things off his chest. Maybe invite a non-judgmental friend on a glass of wine or two and talk through. This will really help clear the confusion of the whole situation.

2. Weighing up the relationship ... Remember the good times and bad ones. Think like a great novel and that is writing the conclusion. You are creating memories that you want to keep this relationship before going ahead. Everyone has great things in their lives coming to an end and this is perhaps yours. See the good times you had and what things you've learned that you can take in other future performance reports fantastic.

3. Looking to the future ... look ahead and think about meeting friends for coffee or go shopping. Maybe even book a holiday with some friends just to give you something to look forward too - although in a few months!

4. Meet the new you ... Throughout each relationship changes as a relationship is a 'give and take' situation. Take time to understand how you changed as an individual. Take the time to learn more. There may be things you have not done in a while you like to do what was something that your ex does not share your passion for.

I hope you enjoyed these tips and put them to good use to address the situation. Again I wish you the best of success.

Monday, March 12, 2012

Overcoming a break - get your life

You've just split with your partner of many years. The dissolution of marriage is taking its toll mentally, physically, economically and emotionally. We are living terrible moments of doubt, anger and pain. He wants to return to the womb of your mother, if only for a respite from the agony of separation. We can not accept that your dreams have been cruelly extinguished. What's more, you can keep your head up because you blame yourself for the separation.

We recommend a new look to erase the stain from your autobiography. The disintegration of a relationship has triggered a sense of adventure. You want to start all over again after learning a hard lesson or two from this experience. Want to do a lot of things like starting a new diet to take out those extra pounds. Want a new packaging yourself.

But what if you can not get over the separation? And if the separation has soured your outlook on life? What if you can not separate the past from the present? What happens if you continue to wallow in grief? Want to see your life go downhill because of a failed relationship? Of course not.

Every day there is a rupture, a divorce or other painful emotional disconnection from their loved ones. Every day many hearts are breaking. Many are losing sight of their purpose in life. They say just can not help themselves.

There are several suggestions to overcome a bad break. Start by separating the past from the present. In this way, you know why you're so badly hurt. It is evil to a familiar one? You are burning because of an ego piqued? Are you afraid to start all over again? Whatever, the break is really devastating. People who follow the pain of separation can get professional help.

You can go to licensed hypnotherapists sessions mp3 or gain self-hypnosis. Clinical hypnotherapy has two techniques. The first is hypnosis, and without the therapist, and the second can be done yourself. The second option you can allow users to do self-therapy in terms of privacy. Therapy to re-program the sub-conscious mind to react to positive emotional problem.

Hypnosis step program helps you to work for a better frame of mind to start over. For those who undergo the anxiety of separation, there is still life out there.

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Planning a successful meeting - Getting Started

In general, if your job title is "Meeting Planner" Event Coordinator "Program Director" shall include meetings, both internal or external, on a regular basis. Some meeting planners who work for large companies and associations are Certified Meeting Professionals and have groups of people with whom they work to plan their meetings with each team member responsible for a different aspect of design. However, if you are planning a meeting for the first time and are unsure how to begin, there are some key areas you should focus on. Set-up a spreadsheet and start gathering information and answering the following questions:

1. The name of the company or the service that the meeting is scheduled for.

2. What type of event is it? namely national sales meeting, client conference.

3. What is the purpose of the meeting?

4. You will have a theme for the meeting?

5. What will be the event that consists of opening and closing keynote speaker, entertainment, lunch, breakout sessions, seminars, cocktail parties. Each segment must be arranged separately and then incorporated in the general case.

6. The number of days of the event will be held on. Come with a timeline.

7. Date of the event. Come with a date and preferred second and third choices.

8. commencement of the AM or PM and the date and time that the meeting is over.

9th. Size of the event. How many participants are you expecting?

10. Check the calendar to make sure that the date is free of conflict with religious holidays, other industry events, etc.

11. Determine the budget you are working.

12. Put together a plan for advertising, promotion and publicity.

13. Location - where will the meeting? You'll be meeting in a convention center, hotels, resorts, historic property?

14. If the off-site meeting will be local in another country or city or another state?

15. Site visits may be in order to help determine the best location for your meeting. Once you choose the meeting site, determine how many rooms and halls will be required.

16. Start planning for meals and food / drinks will be available on site.

17. Audio / visual equipment and sound. What will be required? Do you want to use the services provided by the structure of which we have your meetings or work with outside vendors?

18. Entertainment - will be entertainment will buy and be part of your meeting or be provided off site?

19. Transport - people / cargo.

20. Insurance

21. Estimated total cost.

If there's a website with a page set up where you are advertising your meeting or event, it is really useful to keep updating the information there to keep members or potential members on developments point details, the dates i , location, facility, the area surrounding the meeting agenda. Think everything through carefully and attention to detail throughout the planning process will help ensure a successful and memorable event.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

Keeping positive during Divorce

If you're facing a divorce, you may feel very depressed and upset. These feelings are very normal. You can not predict what will happen when you marry. Some marriages work and others do not. It 'important to understand that this is not the end of the world and things like these happen all the time.

You're not a bad person because you are getting a divorce. If you and your spouse can not go forward, there is no reason to live together in a situation that makes you unhappy. You need to worry about your future and welfare of yourself and your children, if any. Sometimes a divorce can be avoided with the help of a marriage counselor, but often there is just no hope.

Altohugh hard to keep a positive attitude when going through a divorce, you can not let fall apart. If you are accused of untruthful accusations, you must remain strong in order to defend his name and your reputation.

Do not give up. You need to collect all your forces an inner resources. If you are determined to get something that is rightfully yours, you must fight for it. Get what you want in a divorce is not always possible, but you have to fight for what you believe in.

Keep surrounded by others who are positive. Keep your friends and family around you is important. It is necessary that there is humor and laughter in your life even if you feel like falling apart. This will keep in a state of positive energy and keep you ready for what is ahead.

Once the divorce is over and done with no matter what the outcome, you must be ready to go on with your life. You may not believe now, but you will have a new life and exciting to look forward and you can make your dreams. Your life is not over even if you think it is. There are always a second chance and deserve to have one. Your time will come again to love and even if they do not, you know you are better off without your spouse.

You are being given the chance to start over and you get to choose if your life is full of happiness and joy or bitterness and hatred. Slowly over time you begin to let go of the bitter feelings that once consumed.

Remember life is a choice. What happens there is ultimately based on how you choose to live your life.

Friday, March 9, 2012

Five tips to work successfully with divorce lawyer

Divorce lawyers are costly. You need to be proactive and know what is happening with your case at any time. Do not be afraid to ask your attorney questions. Too often we sit back and think that our lawyer will do what is right and we put trust in someone who may or may not have our best interests at heart.

There are honest lawyers divorce, but you must first remove the money hungry ones that will take your firm, file paperwork and unnecessary discharge of the account before you even get a court date. Do not choose your attorney quickly. Go to your family court and find a local divorce lawyer who has the best reputation in the city and hire him or her.

After signing your new divorce lawyer, here are some simple rules to follow:

1. Beware of a lawyer who takes a small firm, but not file motions. Some spouses to wait for months to obtain court orders for spousal and child support, because their lawyers failed to submit the necessary proposals.

2. Remember that when you talk to your lawyer on the phone you are being charged per minute. Do not make the mistake of talking at length. Getting to the point and use a timer. If it is a routine matter, such as date of hearing, talk with staff support, rather than the lawyer. Time for support staff is often not charged, and if the fee at a rate much lower than a lawyer.

3. Follow the advice of counsel to the letter. These people go to law school, they must know what they are doing. Stupid mistakes, like calling your spouse repeatedly raising struggles, and does not protect you, can lead to bills, the violence and restraining orders. It is advisable to limit contact with your spouse. Only discuss your children and any business can have together. Let the lawyers are talking to you, if possible. This is what they are paid.

4. Follow the law. The most important thing you can have is self-control. There will be times when you want to do, call your spouse names or be vindictive. These actions can only land you in hot water. Taking on a spouse's credit card shopping may give legal problems that simply do not need.

5. You hired a lawyer to protect yourself legally. This lawyer is also a huge expense and if you want to keep track of what you are being charged. Keep a log of every meeting, phone call, and their duration. It is also a good idea to record any incident in a newspaper with her husband, so it will be easier to remember the details in court later.

Above all, know that although this is one of the more painful moments of your life will survive. Finding the right lawyer will give you confidence in your case. Your attorney is working for you and together you can plan and achieve the best possible result.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

How to forget your ex

Want to know how to completely forget your ex? The following tips can help you go:

The first step is to accept reality. Your love is gone. This may take some time, depending on how your relationship was serious. Before you accept that your partner is not coming back, the sooner you can start to move on with your life.

Do not look at their photographs and other things that can remind them. Throw away everything that your ex gave you. These things can bring back memories you do not want to remember.

Remove your phone number from the phone book and recent calls list. Do not call your ex, do not write e-mails, letters or text messages. If the former do not answer calls or respond to their messages.

Call your friends and go out with them. Spend time in places where you can meet interesting new people and make new friends.

Make a list of things I hate about love and your ex. There are sure to be the most negative. So, whenever you feel attracted to your ex again, go over that list.

Avoid your ex. If you run into one another in the same place, leave. If this is not possible, just to say hello and ask your ex about her / his work or something. Do not talk about your past relationship. Your ex is probably trying to get more of you.

Think about all the things you can do now that you're singles. Find something constructive to do - and then do it. Get a new hobby and enroll in some classes. Alternatively, you can work hard and concentrate on his career. Work can be a big distraction.

Date of others.

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

8 Signs Youre heading for a break-up, Part 1

Have you ever wondered why women just "leave" men and put an end to a relationship - out of the blue - without any particular reason?

Everything seemed to go well and suddenly you find yourself alone ... Well, if you have been in a relationship before, you probably noticed that at some point, your girlfriend seemed to be no interest in you.

And you start getting little signs that they were not in the past, do not know what's wrong, but feels that something is changing.

I found 8 characters who return often, when a woman is close to breaking. Watch out for these signs, and start calling the shots again.

symbol of Bad 1: Writes and calls less often

This is a first sign to look out for. In the early stages of a relationship is perfectly normal to be writing and calling each other a lot.

But after some time, things tend to cool a bit '. Still, she must be in writing, as you write it, and calling as much as you.

If you're doing all the writing and all calls, realizes that a mobile phone and can also stay in touch with you.

Bad symbol 2: Less physical contact

Over time, you should get to know each other better and better, and that should create more physical intimacy between the two of you.

However, after a couple of weeks or months your girl seems to embrace and kiss a whole lot less, which could be another sign. And since we are talking about physical contact, pay attention to your sexual habits.

If you feel that your girlfriend is not only making out more, stop opening the contact.

Just stop being the first to try to do something in bed.

You see, if you start always sex, your girlfriend will always be accepted or rejected, it is his hand control.

Remember that you must be in control at all times, so just relax and let her do something.

If you've always been all about her, a bit 'will have his back asked "what's wrong, I'm not the most attractive?".

You see, the less you try to initiate sex with a woman, the more you have to ask herself why are you not more, and she will die back to win.

bad sign number 3: She laughs a lot less

If at first you used to be able to make your girl laugh like you never laughed before, and now has just nodding when you say something, it might be a problem.

Could be a bit 'bored to hear your stories. And 'maybe nothing to worry about, but it is a sign.

To counter this problem, the best thing to do is to become less available for some time, a couple of days, for example.

Remember that being available all the time is not really a good solution if you want to build a relationship of long duration.

Become unavailable for a day or two, it gets her thinking about you even more.

Bad symbol 4: One has the impression that you care

You have that feeling terrible and horrible discomfort that is choking or something '.
And the last thing you want is to hear her say she need some 'space.

As you know that the key is to keep control of the relationship, just take a couple of days off. Find a plausible excuse and just tell you a lot of work to do, you are working on a project, all that is realistic and not offend her, and are no longer available for a couple of days.

Do not call as often as would be (but funny and refreshing when it comes), and do not answer their messages immediately.

That's it for today, but be sure to check the second part of that comes out very soon.

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Lonely After Divorce? Get a dog!

After my divorce was final, I was finally confront my feelings about the divorce. During the divorce I was consumed with court dates and legal issues and have no time to mourn the death of my marriage or divorce deal stirs many emotions.

Work through all the different emotions and feelings of loss, betrayal, anger and disbelief took many months. An emotion I was surprised to hear was loneliness.

At first I thought that meant it was time to go out and meet someone new. Then I realized that what he really wanted was a boy, but attention, love and friendship.
It was then that I decided to get a puppy. After all, puppies give you unconditional love. I am happy to see you, even if you have only been away for an hour and are loyal, cuddly friends who betray you. Breast younger than my son 7 years time, I also had the urge to "baby" and take care of someone again powerless.

I took 3 months of age Louis Maltese, 5 months after my divorce was settled. Louis is a wonderful guy, affectionate, loyal little ones who brought me a huge amount of joy. He is truly my "best friend". He is there for me in good times and bad and I can count on his love and devotion.

If you are going through a divorce and a sense of sadness and loneliness, work on these emotions. Meeting someone and getting serious too soon can be a mistake. If what you really crave is love and attention, think about adopting a pet. Ironically once you feel loved and needed again, it will naturally attract someone in your life you respect and honor.

Monday, March 5, 2012

Art Of Letting Go

Why do people cry when he broke up with their girlfriends or boyfriends?! This is one of our questions in life, is not it?

People treated for when you broke up. Certainly we can not help the tears. There are a lot of questions we ask ourselves, but we can not answer directly. One of these is: "What have I done wrong ??".. Yes Yes, we did a lot of sacrifices to earn a good relationship but then we just end up crying. Nothing is impossible if we tried to be good in ourselves and also in the relationship we had.

Love gives us a lot of suffering. Yes It 'true, but then love makes us feel all that we need to feel and experience. We love because we want to be happy, we want to hear what life is.

Crying is just a treat for us to heal a broken heart. We cry because at first, we can not accept that we have been separated from our loved ones, but we think that "we need to let go, we go forward. It can go forward, we need to let go of the past and accept that life is not always right. We need to accept all the circumstances that are pending before us. Life is not life without sacrifice ... God makes us feel the pain we can develop our emotions and be able to stand any test that will be in our lives.

Just remember that in your life today, you are not alone and you will not be until your friends are there to give you company and give you the advice you need in your life. Much that we must not forget God is whos always been there with our good and bad. Never forget to call for him every time ..

Godbless you all next time!

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Successful career, Rocky Relationship?

While you're soaring with eagles on labor, the situation may get lower on the domestic front. This is a dilemma many people have had before, but within the situation is the opportunity to evaluate his life.

Often it takes a split ratio proportions divorce forces us to stop and take stock of the meaning and direction of our lives.

We know that "love" is one of the pillars of our lives. We also know that it is not logical to work as hard as we do, creating all the money and success imaginable only to end up alone and unable to share all the fruits with the one you love most.

What the successful career, the situation is, however rocky relationship provides the opportunity to evaluate. Let me explain.

Life is about purpose - the purpose of life. You, your purpose in life - above all else, strive for happiness and to help you evaluate your situation I have some questions for you that takes you right to the point.

Are you happy with you "in your relationship?
Are you happy with your partner in the relationship?
You still want the relationship?
Can the relationship be saved? If so, how?

Are you using work to hide something at home? The children, in-laws, step-children, the pain of a family death, something that your partner told you months ago that are bad and you never let go of it?
There are pressures at home that could be solved with a different strategy that is outside help, such as coaching or counseling?

Love your work as your partner?
Is changed into a different person that you do not like when you cross the threshold, or when you take the road?

Many situations can be resolved if you want to work out. In the short term talking or working together can work, but you must be careful that not only attack a patch on what appeared to be only a small wound on its reopening later.

One way to avoid this is to strip your life to find yourself. Doing this will make you happy, not only for an hour or a day, but for life.

Who has been a successful career, relationships rock using this situation to re-evaluate their meaning and direction in life. They are doing that and are finding more hours mastering the pillar of his career, but also a relationship.

Are growing stronger, fitter, happier people. Will you join them?

Greeting

Jo Ball
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Cutting the cord

Sometimes, after a relationship has ended, many of us have problems letting go. A lot of my clients often complain of feeling haunted or even possessed by the dearly departed (who probably is not even thinking of you all and is busy happily run away with her new partner.) 'S like the person who left an imprint indelibly on your heart and many of us feel that we can not go forward until the former returns. The energy of the franc could be manifested in every way --- in what they perceive as omens or little reminders that occur in everyday life (eg a sentence or song lyric) or even as a visitor in your dreams.

There are all kinds of cures for this phenomenon, (all of bundles of burning sage to clear the room of French vibe to throw off every reminder of him or her, including the bed.) Even before the ditch Sealy Posturepedic, I recommend you try this little exercise called "cutting the cord."

The idea behind this is that whenever we connect to someone connected to him / her at the time of our solar plexus, the area just below the diaphragm. When we meet someone and fall in love, spend much time building this energy lightworkers who say looks like a rope light that unites two people. However, even after one person disappears, the rope can still remain.

Often, the person who left behind a lot of time spent fortifying the rope with his psychic energy in an attempt to bring the person back. The former can be likened to a psychic vampire, who is happily sucking back the energy that the person being dumped is sending. It does not matter if you send bad thoughts or resentment. That energy is often translated for them in the purest form of astral energy - and use it to transmute and nurture their new relationship. So to avoid being sucked yourself from psychic vampire, oops I mean the former, I suggest you try this: Lie on the bed, breathe deeply and become as relaxed as possible. Now picture the other person and the cord of light that you created when you thought they both would be linked for all eternity. Shown that cord and examine it as best you can.

How thick is it? What color is it? What is it? Now choose your weapon. What is used to cut this cord? You need a knife or the connection is so strong that it can be broken only by hacking with a machete? If a machete does not work, try a circular saw. My favorite is a huge pair of gold scissors. Now, in your mind's eye, snip, hack to cut, cut ... do you have to do to cut the cord. Image for the other person float away from you like a helium balloon let loose in the sky ... and smile and wave "bye bye!" Oddly, one of the side benefits (or disadvantages depending on how you look at it) is that the other person under the posting. Like a psychic vampire greedy, you will return to see if their energy source is gone. So not only does this exercise your health astral, but often involves ex back. That is, if They want them all.

Friday, March 2, 2012

How Betrayed Lovers can go?

Love gives life and a break-up takes away a life. Because a lover can not live normally after a bad break-up? What if one also feels betrayed after the breakup? These questions are as old as civilization.

Exploring romantic love -

We try to find out more about romantic love and break-up.

A person who becomes totally involved with love loses its identity.

Everything revolves around being love. All ambitions, all desires, all pains, everything in life is related to love. These lovers feel destroyed after the break.

If love is just part of life can easily survive after the break-up.

But every poet calls this kind of love as true love? The definition of true love means giving your car a total absence to your beloved. You dream, eat, laugh, and cry, laugh, work, what you do is all centered around your beloved. You live in this love. And then you die when you are betrayed. If you are in true romantic love, you can not live a day without your lover, and then it becomes impossible to live life. The pain of separation and betrayal becomes so bad that the sadness kills the essence of life.

Betrayal -

For those who have been betrayed in love, it becomes impossible to understand how their lover could betray? It 's like a child stabbing the mother. Imagine the pain of the mother who raised her son with nothing but love, care and took every pain to see that his son was happy. The betrayed lover feels something similar and even more. So what should you do?

Remedy -

It is their any remedy for these people? Turn to God for help. Pray.

Look at the most suffering of society such as children suffering from cancer and try to do something to help. Read those who are facing unimaginable difficulties and do something to make their lives better. Take your thoughts away from your pain and watch others being in pain much worse. In some way in helping this world become a better place. This is the answer for betrayal and a bad break.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

The first step in a break Getting Over

Lately I've had a number of customers who have a very difficult time overcoming the end of a relationship, so let me share with you some secrets on how to heal.

I have a client named Dorothy, who is struggling to let go of a relationship with a boy who had initially thought it was perfect for her. When we began working with Dorothy was really angry and frustrated that, once again, was forced to re-build his love life. The only good thing about these feelings is that they have removed any temptation to get right back into dating.

The first step for any client I work with in this situation is to have that feel Their feelings is an essential part of the healing process.

Some people really struggle with the feeling of certain feelings. Some of us are easier with anger, others with sorrow. Dorothy was more comfortable with being angry, but was very reluctant to admit that his anger was masking his feelings of grief and loneliness. Those feelings made her feel vulnerable in a way that resisted furiously. He encouraged me to explore all her feelings by writing a 'letter of sorrow' for his ex.

Pain Letter

To send your letter to take the time to explore what you are going to lose and what you do not want to lose.

- What are you angry?

- What are you sad?

- What this means to break fear?

- What was your part to break?

- What is always going to love or appreciate about your ex?

This is called a scale of emotions and it's nice to write your letter regarding the above. Feel free to use these questions as headings. That said if you need to keep coming back to anger then please do and then go back to the ladder again.

It 'important that you realize that you are never going to send this letter, so you can explore and perhaps even totally unreasonable, what previously would have been insufferable open on how bad you feel.

Explore these questions so that you can feel all the things that you suspect may be true although I would prefer they were not. Write the letter as if you were writing to someone who cares how you feel.

It 'very important that you take the time to do it. Every time you leave a relationship there is the danger of suppressing your emotions because of the pain and disappointment. That suppression continues after the break and makes you less attractive and may start to limit the capacity to love.

If you go through this phase of feeling your feelings properly then you will be able to reconnect with at least some of the love he felt for this person I parted from you. Not in a way that eats you, but in a way that feeds your sense of having a life worthy of love. If you loved deeply once, then you can do it again. It takes work to keep your heart healthy and open, but it is a very valuable work.

This is the first step in a process that can take anywhere from days to months and is a good solid first step. When Dorothy began to be honest about how she felt sad and lonely, but I'm afraid of how she felt overwhelming. As if somehow he could get lost in the feelings or who never feel good again. This process needs to recognize that your feelings are not something to fear. If you're feeling sad you're just sad. It does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with your life that must be solved. Sometimes the best thing you can do for you is right to recognize that you feel sad.

The end of a relationship is often the death of something that had to be beautiful for a while. That said, no matter how great your pain, you want to get through it. You are much bigger than your worst feeling.

Two months of Dorothy has learned a lot about his car and one of its unexpected breakthroughs is that they are not alone in the house makes her feel as if there was something wrong with her. Suddenly, the solitude is not so scary and this place she is in a much better position to think that I had actually done some of his life.

Feeling your feelings is the shortest way for healing and the only way out is through. Just remember that even your darkest minute is only 60 seconds.

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