In a divorce is not just mom, dad and children are concerned. Your parents, siblings, in-laws, aunts, uncles and friends are all involved in the conflict. When you start the divorce process, your tendency will be to think only of your most immediate world: home, children, and property. This is the core that is changing, but it can blind you to the larger world outside. While the process drags on you will find that your entire spectrum of relations has changed. Some of these changes are sudden and huge. Others are more subtle.
Whose friend is whose? Think of never seeing your family again? What are the fault lines of loyalty of your children? Some of their friendships be affected? Much of this comes on the divorce process itself. The most evil becomes, the more difficult the questions become. Can you stay friends with the couple who is still on good terms with your ex? When you're around them you have to watch every word you say?
As with all matters of divorce, this is easier if the separation is amicable. If you and your ex are on good terms, that feeling usually extend to his relatives. But if things were bad, then relationships change radically. The bitterness of divorce tends to bleed too much in other parts of their lives.
When you are one of the people who are divorced, suffers not only the loss of a spouse, but a group of people interested. These may be people who spoke frankly, people with whom you shared vacations and holidays. It could also be thought of them as people who trusted in anything. Suddenly they are thrown into an enemy camp, and you'd never said a word to them.
The easiest thing to say is be strong. The most important thing to say is: go to friends and family who have stuck with you. When people turn against you, go to those who are true for you. Your true friends will not ask you to clarify everything, or to prove something. They just give love and support, and this is exactly what we need most now.
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