All things come to an end ... and a lot of things that seem to be good at the moment may well. One of the most common situations for anyone encounters (any age) is dealing with the pain and debris of a relationship gone south.
First things first - when you're dealing with the rupture or impending rupture, you're not in your right mind. Already suffering from something that no longer exists. And as in mourning for anything, there are stages you go through. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
Now, before you even enter the tactics for how to deal with the break, the first thing you need to Understand is that the break did not happen in the first place.
Or, if you have already, should not be permanent! Far from it. In fact, if you go to the bottom of this article, you'll see that I gave you some links to a few resources that can really help you win back your ex quickly and painlessly.
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Ok, back to how to survive a break ...
Do not take any decision until all the life that you are at least the first three steps of this.
Denial - you can not believe he (or she) is dumped. You got "It's over ..." message, and you're doing something that you can stay in touch. Wondering if you were seeing someone else. And 'bad. It' s like a part of you has been cut.
Rabies - OK, you've internalized the fact that I rejected. Now you're going to act on it. You are angry. Are you frustrated. You call them and shouting them out (or just scream.)
Bargaining - Now you're trying to convince them that you're the right person for them. Are you trying to bargain for all types of contact. Here's where a lot of people make mistakes in relationships, is where do the scan of the abdomen, pity them and their friends.
Depression - After discovering that bargaining does not work, get to the point where you realize how useless this was, comes the depression. This is where you should concentrate on doing other things and go beyond that. This is where your friends if you are careful, trying to drag out of the house.
Acceptance - Eventually, you learn to pass.
Ways around this as a reminder that the first four stages of this are degrading. Are where you are playing a reactive game. You have lost the initiative. At this point, as soon as possible, to focus on convincing the person who dumped you've moved your life. That your life is fine without them. One of two things will happen - or will return to you, you short circuit the 'I'm going to be an idiot "during the break.
There are a lot of techniques to do this, but the first thing to keep in mind is that the final reports, and will go away. In fact, sometimes the best lessons are learned from reports that blow ...
Until next time!
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