I know it was painful to watch your love walk away from you after having had "the talk". No matter what exact words were said, the sense of the conversation (or argument) led to your girlfriend that lets you know that they were breaking things off with you forever.
Your world has fallen in that time and is still trying to collect yourself and do it together. I feel you. I was also there. The connection you feel with your ex is still fresh and you're wondering if there is a way to save your relationship.
There are many factors that go into the break of every relationship and your situation is unique for you and your former partner. However, there are some common reasons why people break: loss of interest in the relationship, lack of respect, not enough in common, lack of intimacy, not enough time together, etc.
Only you know where you stand with your ex love today and whether or not it is worth even trying to rebuild what you lost. If you feel there really is a reasonably good chance that the two can get back together, then you will benefit from the following suggestions:
1) Write a short note to accept the situation
Would you let your ex know that you all accept that this is where your relationship is now. You should write a short note (by hand) by letting them know that you agree that you both need to take a break from them now.
In a sense, you are acknowledging that the first version of your relationship did not work. You're letting go of the 1.0 version so you can start working on version 2.0 - not to mention that in your note!
2) Keep the lines of communication open
If your ex is still open to be friends with you, that's great. You can give them a call or send an occasional email or text message to say "hello" or talk about any topic other light. In no event will bring about any past complaints or problems you had in your relationship. Keep things nice and relaxing, and not try to pressure them into allowing you to come and spend the night.
3) Show that you respect and admire the
There must be something you really enjoy your former love. Everyone enjoys being told how special they are in some way. When you get the chance, let your ex know how you like the way they do this or that. Tell them that you respect the way they carry or handle certain situations. Do not overdo the praise unclear. Be sincere in your admiration.
There are many other things you can do to win your ex back. Having a good strategy is essential to ensure that you are doing the right things the right way to get the best result. Relationships take a little 'work and TLC. If you're willing to put in the effort, then your reward will be feeling your arms wrapped around your love once again.
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