I bet you're sitting there right now to go beyond the last moments that you spent together. I bet you remember what he was wearing, what his facial expressions were, where he touched you or you do not touch. Are you also think about how you reacted to what he said, his body movements and was wondering if you could have said something that would change the outcome of the .. . breakup of the record.
You could go more than a million times, but not change the fact that you're here in this situation now. He's gone for the moment and you're alone and not happy. Then come up with different scenarios of how to get your ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, none of the ideas that so far seems likely to get it back.
I know how you feel. You're not an eccentric ex-girlfriend who wants to pull some wacky scheme to get it back. You know the kind they show in TV movies where the heroine acts stupid and gets all the love of his new life regardless of how ridiculous it behaves? Wacky does not work in real life and you're just looking for a reasonable strategy to get him interested in you again.
The first thing you do, sister, is to sit down and take stock of where you are in your life now. You are in a good place where you're strong on your own? Or do you need a man like your ex hanging on his arm to feel like a whole person? If you feel very emotionally needy right now then turn to a girl and cry on his shoulder. Do not contact your ex begging and wine, or cry for him to make a call or come and stay with you.
You may think that pleading with him will make him feel guilty enough to contact you, but you must be wrong. He will further alienate. Do not want to do business with you in your emotional state in need. So gather yourself and suck it up. You are your own woman, with or without him. You want it in your life because you love him and hopefully it brings something special to the relationship. But you do not need to survive (although I know it feels like right now).
Broken evil and have the right to feel sad, lonely and desperate. However, if you want it back you're gonna show that he must give up being with a great woman. I mean, you're fantastic, no?
So act like it. Get your hair. Buy new clothes. Hold your head high. You are going okay. Now the second thing you can do is accept the fact that all goes well you're hungover. You can make more real to let him know you're fine with it and handle it as a mature adult. Write a short note to let them know why you disagree and give a quick apology, if necessary. Then breezily let him know you still want to be friends and stay in touch.
But this does not close the door to be a couple again?
No. In fact, it opens the door to a fresh start with him. Now you should not worry that you're going to freak out every time you see. E 'safe for him to talk to you again and have a friendly conversation.
In the meantime, you'll be secretly planning your strategy for how you're going to slowly win her heart. See how it works?
You must have a clear plan of action in order to get your boyfriend back. But first you have to let him know that you're a girl in place and has no reason to push on.
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