How Can I Get Back My ex-boyfriend? Some popular answers to this question

The report went boom. Maybe with a bottle, perhaps with a groan, perhaps with a slamming door ... but it's gone. And now he is chasing his self-esteem through the recesses of the mind, asking "What can I do to get it back?"

You are on call. Or IMing or text messages. You wonder if you think you at all, and then you start to pity yourself. Maybe you want to make him feel sorry for you, or to bring back and do it well. Maybe some part of you desperately wants everything would magically get better, or you wish there was something you could do to bring him back.

If these are the patterns of your thoughts, then no matter how much you want to revive or jump start this relationship, and we know that's what you want - otherwise you would not be reading this article - is not gonna work. You see, those patterns of actions come off as being sticky and suffocating control, and exactly the same way you would back off if they made you, it's going to run for the hills when you click the "pity me" parade on him.

So focus on things that work.

Think about the things that made you attractive to him, when you started dating. Focus on those parts of your life that are yours alone, not in addition to couplehood, and above all else - interrupted him (and you) some 'breathing. Put a notice on the calendar that does not speak with him for a month. She did not call him, IM him, text him, whatever. Then spend that month on some serious 'me' time.

In this way, it should trigger a change of heart in your ex. Now that he is not your guard against attempts to miss me pity party hyper-stick is going to wonder how we're doing. (And if it does not, you're better off without him.) May, in fact, you lose a little 'if you do this.

Are you working with human nature - it is a sticky foam is going to drive any man worth having away - to think otherwise. If it were listless and moping around because you broke up with him, you'd think it was annoying as all get out. Same here - not be annoying him. Go on with your life, grow a backbone and let him go alone. (Or, alternatively, use this as the time to learn the lessons about relationships, and move on to something better).

The other major advantage to repair your relationship, making your life your personal goal is that it is stable if he does not return. Yes, we all have known people who seem to have no life - maybe they go home and pet the cat and watch soap operas or something, some are shell shocked from having had a relationship explode on them. Some just decide the whole game is not worth it - and these are both realistic assessments ... but your best chance to get your ex back have nothing to do with him, and everything to do with you and your self-esteem and evaluation.