Broken sudden bad, but a slow descent into a loveless relationship can be even more painful. They are both you and your partner stubborn, and that they both refuse to budge an inch or reach a compromise? If you are trying to save a relationship that you feel is close to the end, try some of these ideas.
1.) Blaming must end.
We are more inclined to blame our partner when our relationships go sour. Only it's not listening to what I'm saying anymore. It always seems so cold to me. Why can not treat me better and surprise me with something nice for a change? I might be willing to do more for you if you do not nag me so much. If you are constantly blaming the partner for everything that goes wrong in your relationship, you will only make him or her become defensive. Put aside the shortcomings of your partner and pay more attention to who he is.
2.) Stop being so needy.
Not wanting to be out of your partner is not healthy. One of the most common problems that cause a couple to split up is a problem of addiction. You should not need your partner to the most menial things such as shopping, being away from each other is normal and very much needed. You may need to find a hobby other than your relationship when you feel the need to cling to your partner all the time.
3.) Are your lines of communication open?
A healthy relationship needs open lines of communication. Arguments, sarcasm and malicious comments are not communication and you must learn to communicate with respect. Considering that he would not talk to friends or colleagues in that way, because it speaks to a person so dear?
4.) Stop believing falsehoods.
You are always imagining the worst case scenarios concerning what has been up to partner or think? These are the little voices in my head that say your partner does not love you just because he or she is too busy to shower with affection. Do not listen to those voices are false, as only to give a truthful version of what is real.
5.) Are you listening?
They are your partner something that interests in mind? Do you really listen to what your partner is saying and give him / her equal time to explain his side? Sometimes deaf to all but what to be right. Speak in a normal voice and really listen to the other side of the story next time there is a conflict. She is not always the one that is right, and you might miss something that is important if you just listen.
The above tips can not change anything for certain reports. You will need time, and apart if this is the case, because your relationship has suffered for too long. Use this time as an opportunity to get a better perspective and understand what you really want.
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