Breaking with a girl he loved is one of the most painful things a man can live. Maybe you saw it coming and maybe you did not. Does not really matter at this point, because all I feel is a pounding pain in your heart and a void in your life that affects your overall happiness.
Right now you're probably wracking your brain trying to think of ways to get your ex girlfriend back by your side. Before you do anything rash, realize that there is a reason they broke up and before you have the chance to reconcile with her, you need to stop and consider some things first.
1) You are focusing too much on the separation and not the cause of separation?
Your knee-jerk reaction in this situation is to want to end the pain of separation as quickly as possible. This is understandable. On the surface, the separation is what causes you the pain immediately. But take a step back for a minute and think about the reasons for which both are separated at this time.
What problems were you before the break?
What were you arguing for?
When was the point that came under strain your relationship?
Answering these questions is a starting point to understand what went wrong and what needs to be resolved in your relationship.
2) Think of this separation as an opportunity for you to work on yourself
Instead of allowing the feelings of depression and anxiety take over, your mind to accept that for now, you two are living separate lives. Click to see this as a time of healing and recovery of some of the trouble that has happened between you two. Sometimes relationships need a break before it can heal.
Instead of walking around in a daze or drowning your sorrows in food and drink, you can choose to take extra care of yourself during this period. Pamper yourself with a long hot bath, a massage, go to a concert, get a hobby, focus on getting in great shape physically and mentally. Read some books on self-improvement. Your goal is to become a better person and partner. If you use this break time wisely, you will pay handsomely down the road.
3) Find a strategy for reconciliation
If you try to force the return to life your girl doing a free pest of yourself, or come across as too needy or insincere, you flop on your face. Instead, sit down and think about how you go about wooing your lady back into your life. If you plan to do this right, you need a plan, and must be a good plan.
This is not a time for tricks or immature games. Look back at your girl for the long term, you must be honest about your strengths, your weaknesses, and what you have to offer her - for real.
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