The best argument you can give for a divorce is this - 'You and your spouse are both different people, then (when you got married), and were developed by different people now.' You have exceeded one another, or who have fallen out of love. But before seeing his lawyer, favorite chair to sit on and think again.
Why do people get married in the first place? If you're like most people, it is to establish a family, have children and enjoy a sense of belonging. The nature intended children to be the joy that ties a couple together. Nothing brings more joy of having a newborn baby of your choice. This is the natural way to keep the family together. And nothing brings more devastation in the heart of a child to see both parents split.
There are couples with high net worth that end in divorce so often, and there are couples who have net worth equal to zero, but being happy together. The missing money is not really a factor that led to this. What binds two people together is respect, understanding and communication. People think they need to be in love in a marriage to stay together. Watch love stories like Titanic and Pearl Harbor and think that marriage should be like that. The truth is that there are stages in a marriage. People change, for better or worse. And you need to adapt to these changes, to take the course, just like a sailboat that looks strong currents and winds shift.
Unless the person you married has turned into a monster or evil, I say that divorce is inevitable. But if you are just bored or fell out of love, then there are ways to avoid the ultimatum.
Remove the negative words from your vocabulary. If you are not so much in love as you were when you first got married, at least you can try to be best friends. Being the right person, even when the spouse is not. Be educated to be the right person and the world today is so full of free information about how to do it. The fact that you were married in the first place, said that there was something between the two of you have brought to this union, and there is a possibility that can be rekindled. Go back in time and repeat once more moments of your life on your courtship, how good it was. How did you build that courtship that led to your wedding and wedding beautiful and the people who came and celebrated this joyous occasion. Replay it again and again. If you can both feel good and laugh about it, then there is no hope of saving the marriage.
But if this does not bring a little 'feelings for some of you, I would say that divorce might be the way out. It may not be a bad thing, if this is the only solution. But the work to be good friends. Take all your negative feelings and emotional baggage and placed in a local shop and lock it, so now you only see the good side. You will feel much lighter and much happier.
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