Get over your ex is something that many of us have to do at some point in our lives. Some people more than others. When the former: a divorce then involved in the break is even more difficult.
They say that time is a great healer and that is true, but action is vital. Just what that action should take?
Here are some practical tips for dealing with life after a break, relationship break down or divorce.
1. Making a clean cut.
As tempting as it may be, if you're still in love with your ex, and not to reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you better make a clean cut. This is true every time. Former lovers rarely make good friends after a break.
2. Delete all phone numbers, email address and the like, containing the works details. Keep at bay the temptation is vital.
3. Clear how many personal items as you can. Obviously keeping practical stuff is important, but if you're using your ex left behind items to remember them, then that's not good. Clear out as soon as possible.
4. Treat yourself. Make sure you get used to enjoying yourself without your ex-partner. Prove to yourself, your ex and others who can smile again despite the circumstances. A divorce does not mean you can not laugh a lot.
5. Let your frustration, anger and bitterness out. Write your feeling or get some advice. Even if it's just a friend who will listen for a while '. Vent - it's natural.
6. Clean your current situation by buying new things for the home. new bed linen and cooking utensils are something you use every day. Get new items. Your life is still going to go ahead on its own distance from what you have with your ex. It will work wonders for you.
7. Give yourself time to heal. There is no need to rush into a new relationship until your ready. Advice given to me as I was going through my divorce was to 'clear the decks emotionally'. Superb advice, no need to rebound to its right for you.
8. Eliminate any negative self-talk. It 'easy to feel sorry for you after a break. It can help for a very short time at first. If you keep talking yourself down then you will find it difficult to move forward when the time is right for you.
9. Take charge of your life. Scoring. Prepare challenges. Perhaps you've always wanted to abseil or jump from a plane. Maybe learning yoga might be right for you. The world is your oyster.
10. Take comfort in the fact that he does better every day. Say to yourself 'every day in every way I am getting better and better.' And 'true and most people who have been divorced will tell you that suddenly one day you realize that the rest of your life can easily be the best of your life.
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