And 'your broken for months, but you're still stuck in bed grieving over your lost love. You could not eat (or stop eating), sleep or work because everything could ever imagine. She keeps repeating the mantra heartbreak, "Why leave me ... what have I done?" as you succumb to a series of hysterical crying fits. You are officially a victim of a broken heart.
So how does a clever brush-off? Here are some tips to help you survive heartbreak hell.
1. Lose
Moan. Sob. Let it all hang out. Get rid of all-consuming anger and vent every ounce of vitriol in your system. Take a good wallow. Take a pillow and pretend it was him and do everything with it the way you'd want to come with him. Throw all his letters and photos away. Call your friends and tell them your troubles at the moment 20. Grieve your heart on a boy who was no better than a rotten carcass.
2. Accept what can not be changed
So, it's over. This can be difficult to swallow but the reality is it's all over and there's nothing you can do. You left without a choice but to believe and accept it. Remember, acceptance is the key to healing.
3. Work It Out
Put your positive attitude at work and head to the gym to work 30 minutes a day. Exercise not only sweep the mopey mood but it will also make you look good and feel as it helps pump out endorphins, the body's natural chemicals that make you feel strong and oozes sex appeal.
4. Aromatherapy for the heart
Aromatherapy is believed to lift depression and soothe irritable nerves. If you have not tried, you should try now how it works, it asks only your body but also your mind and spirit. Here's a quick recipe: Fill a bottle of 10 grams of organic vegetable oil with 9 drops of lavender oil, 15 drops of sandalwood oil, 4 drops of rose essential oil and 10 drops of warm water. Add 10 drops of the mixture in a hot bath and you're ready to soak!
5. Put a front if necessary
Emotional turmoil may still be inside, but remains confined within the four walls of the room are the chances you will feel even more miserable. Go out and show the world that you are not an emotional wreck. Crack a smile and flash those pearly whites. At first, it may be inconvenient to put on a face, but soon it would become so good you'd do it for real, without even realizing it themselves.
6. Adopt a Pet
Need Some Lovin '? Get a pet. Pets are not only cuddly and affectionate, but are also a good diversion of your time and concentration. Sure, you need human affection, but unlike humans, your pet can not talk like that to hurt the chances are few, at least not emotionally.
7. Close the door
Do not be a fool for love. If he continues to call to ask for another case or tell you that someone new, but wants to remain as friends, not bite. You will not just let fall in love with him again, but you're also making yourself believe subconsciously that there is something left in him for you when the truth is that there is none. False hopes mean nothing but emotional boo-boos.
8. Get busy
Find things you love to do that you are not able to explore, why not approve of them when they were still together. Program night out with friends and engage in activities not done before. With so many things to occupy your mind, you'd be so busy to even think about your broken heart.
9. Move Up
The end of a relationship does not mean the end of you. You do not need a man to make you feel like a real woman. If you can not see what is beautiful and special about you, what kind of man is? Someone not worth your time, it is clear. Not someone who deserves either.
Fractures can be very painful and poignant. Sometimes, it also felt like dying. Funny how we feel hedonistically so wonderful when you're in love, then end up feeling terrible after a horribly broken. Nevertheless, it is a risk we all must take. While we promise to love, there are no guarantees. So live and love. Get hurt and love again. After all, there is no joy without sorrow, without joy, without hell.
© 2005 Rachelle Arlin think. All rights reserved.
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